I’m pretty excited this morning because today is my Friday!
Four day weekend? Yes please!!
I was going to start ripping apart my office (in case you missed it, you can read those plans here), but I decided this weekend would be more focused on F.U.N. A little shopping, a little eating, a little pampering, and a night out with some girlfriends to top it all off. I also want to work ahead on a few blog posts (spring decorating coming soon!), so there will be a little work – but it’s fun work so I’m okay with that. 🙂
I thought today I’d talk a little about what to do when you’re feeling overwhelmed with your home. Maybe you recently moved into a new house and everywhere you look is a project. Maybe you want to redecorate but don’t know where to start. Or maybe you’ve lived in your house so long that all the work you did when you first bought it needs to be redone or is no longer to your taste. Any of these things sound familiar to you?
It doesn’t matter if it’s one room or ten – figuring out how and where to begin can be intimidating and even a little scary. We all value our spare time, and even though you don’t have to spend a lot of money to make changes, chances are you’re still going to be spending some amount of money – so you want to get it right, am I right?
How many times have you had a thought process similar to this: “Ooh, I love those pillows – I should get those…with a new throw they could look really pretty in my living room….especially if I paint it like I’ve been wanting to do…of course if I repaint the living room, then I should really repaint the dining room because the two rooms are right next to each other…and if I repaint the dining room, I’ll need to find new curtains…and we really could use a new chandelier…but I really need to find curtains for my bedroom, because I have nothing in there…but I really shouldn’t be spending money on those things when our bathroom needs to be remodeled…and then of course we really need a new fridge…and that back deck needs to be replaced…and I can’t forget that we’re probably going to be needing a new car soon…”
And before you know it, the thought of a new pillow feels so overwhelming – and expensive – that you just shake your head and move on to something more fun and enjoyable.
Like ice cream.
Or is that just me?? 😉
As much as I love Pinterest, and Instagram, and shows like Fixer Upper, they can sometimes make us feel like our homes need to be picture perfect and magazine ready within a few hours, days, or weeks. They make it look so easy, right?
But the truth is, for most of us (myself included) the process of developing our home takes many months – and more often years. And you know what? I think that’s okay. 🙂
We’ve been in our home over four years and I still have plaster hanging from the kitchen ceiling, tiles falling off the bathroom walls, and a sun porch so buried beneath stuff that I can’t even get to the windows that are falling out to put them back in place. And that’s just the short list.
Do I sometimes get overwhelmed, frustrated, mad, and/or discouraged by this? Absolutely! But I try to remind myself that one project at a time, one room at a time, one day at a time, it will eventually get done. If I had waited until I had all the time, money, and ideas to do my whole house at once, it would still look like this
I’m never going to have the resources to tackle every single thing that needs to be addressed all at one time (unless I win the lottery – but I don’t play, so the odds of that happening are not great), and I’m never going to be one hundred percent sure about every design decision I want to make, so instead, we just chip away at it little by little, and adjust as projects – and life in general – evolve along the way.
Have there been mistakes along the way? Yes. Mistakes are going to happen, so just be open to that now. You will inevitably choose to do something a certain way, or buy a certain thing that down the road you wish you hadn’t, or wish you had thought to do differently. Don’t fret on it, just make the best of it and keep trying.
My biggest regret to date? Not adding planks to the back wall of our bookshelves. Why did I not think to do that? Why?! Is it fixable? Probably, but it would likely be a pain to do, so I try not to dwell on it. The truth is, if we hadn’t added those bookshelves – plank wall or not – I probably wouldn’t have been inspired to get the living room to where it is now. And if I hadn’t taken the first steps to getting the living room decorated, I probably wouldn’t have been encouraged to make the dining room pretty.
And if the living room and dining room hadn’t started looking so nice, I probably wouldn’t have wanted that cute little addition to the entryway.
And now that all those rooms are looking good, I’m motivated to make a plan for the kitchen.
See where I’m going with this? One baby step at a time – and sometimes one step forward, two steps back at a time – this house has become our home. We just needed to be willing to take that first step. And consequently, the more we do around here, the more confident and sure I am of the design decisions I make – which just makes it easier to keep moving forward.
I recently stumbled across this quote, and I loved the message,
“If you wait until you have enough money to decorate and make your home your own it will never happen. If you wait until you can afford to buy everything new you are missing the point. It is the old, the new, the made, the hand-me-down, the collected, the worn (but loved) things in your home that make it your own.” – Stacy Risenmay
It’s the process, the imperfections, the old stuff and the new stuff, that makes our houses home. So maybe you give those walls a fresh coat of paint and a clean slate. Maybe you rearrange your furniture or change up your wall art. Maybe you makeover the furniture you already have. Maybe you install new flooring. Maybe you buy those new pillows. Or maybe you do nothing but gather inspiration photos and really hone in on the overall look and feel you want for your home. Little by little, bit by bit, it will get there – but only if you take that first step. 🙂